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rsr commented on my first bog that there were 4 possibilities for why people stay with cheaters.  I agree.   The reason I stayed was fear!!!

When my husband cheated the first time, I had just lerned that my mother had brain cancer. The last thing I needed was to be alone.  I could not imagine how I would get through that by myself.  Of course I told everyone that I stayed for the children, but that was out of fear too.  I could not see that I would be ok.  I did not feel strong at all.  How would I be able to raise my kids and morn my mom without help? 

One thing I have learned in the past 3 month is that I am a lot stronger then I ever thought I could be.  Don't get me wrong I do get overwhelmed at times.  But as the months pass those overwhelming moments get shorter and less frequent.  I am much happier.  I am no longer wondering "is he going to do it again" .  I am no longer walking on pins and needles--keeping kids quite,  kicking the dogs out, and basically making sure nothing upsets him.  I am now able to live my life for me and my kids.